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Self-Love Tips for 2018

March 16, 2018 by Mandy

Too many people these days are oblivious to their value and their light. Too many people these days are comparing themselves to others, are questioning what they have to offer, and are on a never-ending quest to change themselves out of pure non-acceptance for who they are. They are conscious of eating the right foods and getting regular exercise in order fit into society’s definition of ‘beautiful’. They plan their meals and obsess over the trendy new diets and workout routines; and they keep their eyes fixed to the scale in hopes that they’ll see their hard work pay off in the form of dropped figures. A don’t get me wrong – keeping fit and healthy, working out and eating clean is a good thing. But not when it’s done out of hate for one’s body. Too many women (and men) suffer heavily with body issues. They beat themselves up for looking a certain way, or for not looking like someone else – and quickly the obsession starts to take over. Everything they are as a package; inside and out, is completely overshadowed by their desire to look different and be ‘better’. They scroll through social media and compare themselves and their lives with those who are only choosing the best pictures to post but are oblivious to the fact because only one thing matters – being different and being better. This self-hate issue doesn’t just alter one’s views on their bodies but transcends to many other corners of one’s life. Self-hate is like a virus – it spreads, until one is left feeling empty, alone, confused and filled with darkness.

Until a real change is made – a change that has nothing to do with outside appearance and acknowledgement, but rather a change that transforms their lives and souls from a dark, gloomy and cold place, to a place of warmth and light – which no external circumstance can shake. The change is called self-love; which encompasses acceptance, endurance, grace and of course, love. Self-love is a practice, it’s a choice and it’s something that needs to be worked on a day-to-day basis. It’s not just about buying something new, or reading an inspirational book that enlightens you, it’s about flicking a switch within and practicing all that works for the greater good of yourself and others.

Be good to others

Self-love lies in your actions. When you are good to others, you are inadvertently being good to yourself. When you show others love, empathy and respect, you are showing yourself all those things. That’s why hurt people, hurt people. That’s why those that are nasty, jealous and sour, are unhappy with themselves – because they’ve spent too much time giving out bad, which has reflected back onto them – and they start to feel it and become it. Be good to others and you will feel good about yourself and begin to cultivate self-love and acceptance.

Discover your values and live in alignment with them

Our values make us who we are. If we had no values we wouldn’t have anything to believe in and we’d end up falling for everything, because we’d have nothing to stand for. Your values guide you and help you to identify what it is you care for, so it’s important that you know them. Write down what matters to you – you may value honesty, integrity and family; for example, it doesn’t matter what your values are, there is no right or wrong as this is personal to each person. 

Spend time alone

Most people don’t like spending time alone, but it’s imperative that one learns how to enjoy their own company. This gives one space to dig deep and get to know themselves on a personal, deeper level. Self-love removes the fear you have of what you may find within, and instead allows you to accept whatever it is you may find. Being alone helps one to reconnect and re-establish that tarnished relationship with themselves – and heal that reality. Take a road trip, go overseas or just simply take a few minutes a day to just sit alone and rejuvenate. 

Journal

Writing is one of the most therapeutic things you can do – especially when you write down all that is going on in your mind, which you need to release and make sense of. Writing allows one to get to the core of what they’re feeling, instead of distracting themselves so that they don’t have to deal with it. Self-love is about caring about what you think and taking time to listen to that voice. 

Forgive yourself

We have all made mistakes – and mistakes are okay! Mistakes are not big, bad, ugly things; they teach us a lot. Some of the greatest lessons come from making ‘mistakes’. So, forgive yourself for your past mistakes, and forgive yourself for the mistakes you are still yet to make. There’s no perfect way to go about this thing called life – we can only do our best.

Learn to say no

Learn to say no to things, people, or situations that make you feel bad, or tarnish your self-worth or are unsupportive of your growth- and don’t be ashamed. If there are toxic people that make you feel sad and drained whenever you are with them – let them go. The same goes for situations – remove yourself from any situation that you don’t feel is good for you and your wellbeing. It’s as simple as learning the word no, and putting yourself first.

Filed Under: Wellness Tagged With: happiness, health, self-love, wellbeing, welllness

9 Great Reasons Why You Need to Smile More Everyday

September 27, 2017 by Mandy

You can never underestimate the power of a smile, not only for your well-being but others as well. There is something calming and friendly about being greeted by someone who is smiling. Whether it’s the person making your drink at the coffee shop, or the bus driver on your way to work, just that one act can make your whole day seem better. In return, learning to greet the world with a smile can also help you to feel happier and lead to a more positive outlook on life.

However, what if you don’t want to smile because you aren’t happy with the way you look? That can be easily fixed with a visit to the dentist. They can perform restorative orthodontic dentistry to make your smile better and give you the confidence to smile again. Then you’ll feel the benefit of these reasons to smile every day.

Building Trust with Others

Have you ever felt more trusting to someone who smiles nicely at you? Well, studies have shown that if you’re greeted with a big genuine smile, you’ll trust that person more than if they didn’t smile at all. That means if you want others to trust you, then you need to smile and be honest about it. If you try to fake a smile, it will normally be recognized, and it might make people wary of you. That is why if you’re in business, having a genuine smile can lead to better sales and more customers.

Healthy for Your Heart

Learning to keep smiling can be beneficial for your health. Those that have a naturally smiling outlook have a slower heart rate, reduced blood pressure and less risk of heart disease. It could be that by smiling, you’re naturally releasing endorphins and dopamine. These are associated with the body doing well and lowering everyday stress.

Gain More Friends

If you’re approaching someone who is frowning, you might not be eager to meet them. However, if you’re meeting someone who is smiling, then it makes you feel more relaxed and happy to see them. As humans, we’re drawn more to those who are smiling and happy, so if you try to remain upbeat, there is a greater chance you’ll make more friends. Similarly, you wouldn’t want to go out with a friend who was always negative or serious. So, by keeping yourself happy, your friends will want to see you more, and you’ll have more fun.

Increasing Your Positivity

Smiling can have a big effect on you as well as other people. Those who smile more often usually find that they’re happier with their lives and feel more positive. It’s easy to become negative and let things get to you – many people automatically think the worst in any given scenario, and that can have a detrimental effect on them and others around them. Train yourself to always think in the positive and you’ll soon find that your outlook on things will change for the better.

Greater Productivity

Because smiling can reduce the feelings of negativity, it will also help you to feel more productive. Studies have shown that just a few minutes of smiling or laughing a day can greatly increase someone’s productivity. It can also help the creative process and allow you to do more and better work as a result. If you look at some of the most productive and successful people, they all have a great outlook on life and their own happiness.

Make Yourself More Attractive

It won’t be any surprise to know that smiling can help make you more attractive to others. It can be a good thing in many ways including trying to find a partner. That is the reason they always tell you to create a nice smiling picture if you use online dating sites. Those who have a natural smile are more likely to be successful in love than those who don’t – and here’s another great reason to show off those teeth; it’s thought that smiling also makes you look younger because it works the muscles that lift up your face.

Boost Your Immune System

The same reasons that smiling lowers your stress and helps you to relax are the same ones that can help your immune system. Having a positive attitude and a happy smile, keeps your body working well and helps your immune system fight off colds and flu. That is almost as good as an apple a day when it comes to keeping the doctor away. Along with boosting the immune system, it can also help prevent some diseases such as Alzheimer’s, obesity, asthma, and headaches.

Help You to Live Longer

The benefit of all the natural endorphins and dopamine is that you’re statistically more likely to extend your life by seven years if you keep happy. That means you’ll have more time to do all those things you love and to tick some more things off your bucket list.

Become a Better Leader

If you want to be a good leader and make your co-workers more receptive to your requests, then all you need to do is smile. Studies have shown that managers who smile when addressing colleagues are more likely to have a good working relationship with them than those who don’t. It also means that your co-workers are going to be more productive and less disruptive when working with you. That will make for a better working atmosphere and lower stress.

There are many other things that just a smile and a positive outlook can help. It can help to reduce certain types of pain because of the feel-good neurotransmitters that activate when you’re happy. It can also make you more successful, especially during interviews because you will seem more confident and approachable. The next time you see someone who is looking unhappy, try to tell them about the benefits of smiling and keeping positive. Not only will it help them, but it will also make you feel good that you’ve helped someone.

Filed Under: Wellness Tagged With: happiness, health, smile, smiling, wellness

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