Is your sex life as dull and repetitive as the rest of life post-Corona Virus?
With the rest of our lives getting smaller it’s a great time to make sure that your sex life is still vibrant and interesting. Whether you’re looking to get kinky for the first time, or just thinking of ideas to spice it up tonight, here are some great common kinks to get things going.
Do Some Butt Stuff
Anal sex can be intimidating to people, especially if you’re not familiar with it. Once you get the hang of it though it can open up a whole new form of pleasure and excitement.
You don’t have to start with full-on anal sex after all. Test the waters with fingers, then try to work your way to a small toy. Be sure to use lots of lube!
Anal play is not just for women either, in fact, men can enjoy it more since they have a super sensitive prostate. If your male partner is down, consider lubing up your fingers or toys and trying things on out on him too. It can make anal play seem more equitable and is fun for everyone.
Make Food Sexy
Play with new sensations by bringing food into the bedroom. Ice cubes, strawberries, chocolate sauce, and whipped cream are all popular ways to add a little sensation to your foreplay.
Try spraying a little whipped cream on your nipples and having him lick it off oh so gently. Put an ice cube as far up your thighs as you can stand to have it. Lick chocolate sauce from every place on his body.
Please remember that sugar and the vagina should never mix and be sure to clean up afterwards.
Get Tied up
If you’re doing a lot of bondage play, you probably want to invest in a set of restraints that don’t cut off the circulation to your wrists. However, if you feel like improvising tonight, you can have your partner tie your wrists up with a sexy silk scarf, or tie you to the headboard with a cloth belt.
The feeling of being out of control is one of the more common kinks. It’s also sexy to know there’s nothing you can do, so you might as well just enjoy the ride. The lack of pressure to please your partner can be liberating and fun.
Spank It
Spanking is the quintessential BDSM move and a very common kink. If you’re already spanking as a part of sex, consider getting on your knees for a longer spanking session, or try getting spanked with a new object. Your wooden spoon has never seemed so hot.
Common Kinks Get a Fantasy Makeover
Fantasy is great for keeping this spicey. They can be as kinky or as fantastical as you want it to be, though be sure to talk out what you want out of a scene before you start doing anything sexy. You should make it clear if you want your scene to end in passionate love or a hard spanking or anything in between.
The open-ended nature of role-playing can also make it intimidating to start up. So during this time of staying inside, why not take inspiration from your Netflix binge? After all, who hasn’t wanted to act out that kiss between Jess Day and Nick Miller?
Once you’ve decided on the show that turns you on most you can even invest in some costumes to bring the sexy to a whole new level.
Be Fluid
One surprisingly common fetish is fluid play. If you just like spit or semen it can be very easy to act this out in real life. For a pee fetish, you might want to consider something like the Whizzinator, which lets you simulate pee in a safer and more beginner-friendly way.
Be His Mistress
No, not a cheating fetish. A mistress is a female dom. While it can be a little intimidating to take dominance in the bedroom it can be a thrilling way to spice things up. Plus, a lot of guys are totally into the reversal.
You don’t have to jump into full-on cock and ball play right away. Try taking control and demanding what you love in bed, whether that’s a long session of oral sex or that one position you can’t get enough of.
You can also think about pairing your naughty commanding side with the next item on our list.
Take Control
Orgasm control is the process of getting a partner close to orgasm, then backing off. You can do this multiple times during a session. Its a game of teasing. Making sure they’re close yet oh so far.
Not only is this a way to prolong the fun, but it can also lead to really intense orgasms when you finally decide they’re allowed to finish.
To spice it up take turns- let him tease you until you can’t stand it then get down there and do the same. When you finally have sex and let each other finish the results will be explosive.
Get Tantric
If your sex is always on the rough side, you can spice it up in the opposite direction. Read up on tantra, then pick a few poses to get you started, and then you’ll be ready to reach a whole new level of intimacy, or at least have fun trying.
Think of tantric sex like sexy yoga. It’s all about breath work and being in the moment. Add in some eye contact and an emphasis on feeling your partner’s body and you have tantra.
I recommend picking a few tantric poses with your partner, then focus on breathing in tandem and really feeling how they feel inside of you. Like all of the tips, and sex in general, you’ll want to communicate throughout.
You could even give your partner a tantric massage to heighten the experience further, creating a deeper connection as you focus on your partner’s body. Each touch becomes a pathway to heightened sensations.
Mix and Match
Now that you’re thinking about how much fun you’re going to have tonight, don’t forget you can mix and match just about all of these common kinks together to have some sex that fits your exact desires.
If you want more ideas to improve your love life keep reading. We’ve got lots of great tips to keep your life interesting.